posted 07/14/08 12:15 PM

Free items promote neighbor interaction

On 14th Ave between Howell and Olive is a set of tables with free objects.  I've been observing this free table whenever I take my puppy out and today I actually spent a few minutes conversing with neighbors as they came to check it out too.  The table mostly has knick knacks, old mismatched dishes, a box of old flashlights, but a few items of interest that sparked conversation:  a child's plastic flute for example, was the center of much discussion.  Was it clean enough to possibly test it, or was it potentially too icky to be worth it?

It's amazing to me how often residents of a neighborhood will pass each other by without even looking at each other.  I've even used my dog as an excuse not to look at someone while walking around, watching him instead of meeting the glance of a stranger.  Lately I've decided to start saying hi to people in the neighborhood, or at least looking at them.  The reactions vary.  Some people look up, then glance away quickly.  Others stop to ask about my dog.  Others say hi and smile back.  I'm starting to recognize the faces of more people in my neighborhood and a few remember me as well.  

Capitol Hill is one of the denses neighborhoods in Seattle, yet I don't know even half of my neighbors.  Chatting with someone over a free table or while walking a dog helps people get to know each other.  When we know our neighbors and care for the area we live in, we'll be more likely to help keep the neighborhood clean and safe.

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You can take the girl out of the midwest...
I've been working on my eye contact as well! It started after I realized that I was doing the same Seattle-style Avoidance Thing that used to drive me crazy. Like you, most people welcome it, although some quickly look away. (I even started up a conversation with a little old lady standing next to me at the Post Office. The guys in front of me glanced at me as if I were insane.)
Comment by final answer
July 14, 2008
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RE: You can take the girl out of the midwest...
I like chatting with little old ladies, they usually make me laugh. The Post Office is a prime place to chat, the lines usually move slow and instead of being impatient, you may make a friend. :)
Comment by Wesa
July 14, 2008
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I totally talk to dogs
I love stopping to talk to people's puppies... I usually try to ignore the humans if I can get away with it, cuz I'm shy.
Comment by Uncle Vinny
July 14, 2008
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Anonymity
While I'm all for knowing your neighbors -- and I know a lot of the folks on my block -- let's cut ourselves some slack and not expect more than is realistic on the social interaction front.

Start local. Know your next-door neighbors and the folks in your building. The free items table is a great place to interact.

But give yourself a break if you don't know people a block over when each square block in this neighbhorhood can house possibly hundreds of people.

And it's not just a Seattle thing. It's a city thing. City 'hoods are just too dense to have to interact with every person you pass on the street.
Comment by pffft
July 14, 2008
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RE: Anonymity
I wasn't really suggesting knowing them on a very personal level, but more in the "I'll say hi to the person walking by" kind of level.
Comment by Wesa
July 14, 2008
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I usually smile
But I don't necessarily say hi to everyone I pass. If you do know your neighbors, remember to keep the conversations brief unless the other person clearly, obviously wants to have a long check-in... it's the worst to get trapped by a talker!!
Comment by Katelyn
July 14, 2008
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there are good reasons not to say hello
For example, be careful making bus stop friends. Because you will see each other a lot. A quick 'hey' is ok. Chatting all the way to work every day sucks. I've made the mistake -- only headphones can save you.
Comment by jseattle
July 14, 2008
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RE: there are good reasons not to say hello
I know how that is. Sometimes peace and quiet is all one wants!
Comment by Wesa
July 14, 2008
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speaking of free things....
I've left several free things on the sidewalk south of Kingfish and they've without exception been gone each time in under ten minutes. It's a little magical as I never see anyone taking them but they're gone in a jiffy! Great spot to leave things though of course I recommend checking back and throwing them out if they're still there in a couple days.
Comment by carmen
July 15, 2008
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Junk
While these free items may lead to conversations, in the end that is junk on our streets. There is always someone’s garbage lining the parking strip around that corner. One time someone decided cans of paint were a good item to give away. Somehow those cans opened up and were dumped into the street and over all the junk left for passerby’s. A good way to make your neighborhood beautiful is to not leave garbage on the lawns.
Comment by Tim
July 15, 2008
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RE: Junk
The "junk" is currently set up on tables with signs stating that they are free. If "free" tables are maintained, I don't see the problem. When garbage and junk are just tossed on the street corner, that's the issue.
Comment by Wesa
July 15, 2008
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